" A beautiful thing is never perfect " . I believe Life is beautiful . So a person's life will never be perfect. We all make mistakes and keep on learning from them no matter what phase of life we are in. Choices are also part and parcel of life. We have to make then all along our way in life. The results of some of our choices may be good and the other not so good. In retrospect we can always say that if this was my choice my life would have been better . But we all have a very good hind sight. But it is our fore sight which makes difference ..
Humans tend to introspect a lot in certain circumstances. They have lots of things on mind and feel helpless being able to do nothing fruitful. When they think they could have handled their responsibilities better. Introspection is generally done by heart to address conflicts of heart or mind. In my case , my reasons for introspection are a mixture of all possible feelings like helpless , sad , dissatisfaction from not being able to take care of my responsibilities better. During such introspections I tried to look at the other side of choices I made .
My first choice which I remember having made was declining to join a particular school after having got admission in it by writing a competitive exam . Reason was I didn't want to stay away from home in hostels. I was just around 9 years old . Those were the days when I used to cry if my mom was delayed in coming home from office because of work . So I couldn't even in my scariest or wildest thoughts allow such a scenario let alone real life. My parents also didn't even try persuading me about joining it. Looking back , though I don't regret it , I think I would have got to know a different life and my home sickness would have been addressed a lot earlier than when it was actually done.
In the next phase of my education , choice was between MPC and BiPC , two groups which large percentage of students from my parts take. My choice was against my Dad's wishes but I never felt it was the wrong choice or even thought about the choice not taken. My next decision was what you can say life changing or life defining one. I had option of joining a professional course in a fairly reputed college or try another year and give myself the opportunity of joining a college of National reputation. Though I was interested in giving another try , I was talked into taking up the professional course . This is the choice which I regret the most in my life. I always felt it was the wrong choice and still even after almost 10 years I feel the same. It may even be the case of unknown pastures being greener. But this is how I feel deep down in heart.
I would like to associate or look myself as " Jack of all trades and Master of none " . But unfortunately had to do my Masters that too in Technology , when my dream was always Business Administration . The factor that the institute being of National repute may also have played a part in my choice. But eventually that particular choice of pursuing Masters to joining a job made me spend five years of life thousands of miles away from home. It hardened me in many ways and I can say have more exposure to ways of life. Initial two years were quite hard from personal and professional front. Needed a lot of emotional support because of things happening around and with me. Though there were lots of friends who were quite supportive , would have felt better sleeping with my head on mom's lap. After joining job , things got tougher on family front. Dad was diagnosed with a serious ailment and the medication was quite taxing both mentally and physically. It is in tough times you get to know your real friends or relatives. All those who were with us when things were better deserted us. Those who were along with us in my home practically their whole life didn't bother to care. They may have stepped back fearing we may ask financial help for treatment or they may have to stay helping my Mom. But the only thing wanted was emotional support. Though I was able to do it on phone I would have felt a lot better if I was nearby. If things were not already tough enough , got tougher with my dad's demise. My brother who is still studying had to do things beyond his age. In this struggle , which my mind / heart has been through for the past few years , I felt my choice was a mistake and I would have been happier or you can say peaceful if I had taken up a job after my bachelors.
Making wrong or what you say not so good choice was sadly not just limited to my professional or student life. I had to live with this even at a personal level. Not once ... not twice .. but thrice in life I made the same kind of mistake. Despite my choices , few of which may have not been good or which I feel could have been better , I am in a position of strength. All these experiences have made me tougher and prepared me for further challenges ahead in life which I think will be even more trickier and challenging.
" I am careful not to confuse excellence with perfection. Excellence , I can reach for , perfection is God's business " .
Humans tend to introspect a lot in certain circumstances. They have lots of things on mind and feel helpless being able to do nothing fruitful. When they think they could have handled their responsibilities better. Introspection is generally done by heart to address conflicts of heart or mind. In my case , my reasons for introspection are a mixture of all possible feelings like helpless , sad , dissatisfaction from not being able to take care of my responsibilities better. During such introspections I tried to look at the other side of choices I made .
My first choice which I remember having made was declining to join a particular school after having got admission in it by writing a competitive exam . Reason was I didn't want to stay away from home in hostels. I was just around 9 years old . Those were the days when I used to cry if my mom was delayed in coming home from office because of work . So I couldn't even in my scariest or wildest thoughts allow such a scenario let alone real life. My parents also didn't even try persuading me about joining it. Looking back , though I don't regret it , I think I would have got to know a different life and my home sickness would have been addressed a lot earlier than when it was actually done.
In the next phase of my education , choice was between MPC and BiPC , two groups which large percentage of students from my parts take. My choice was against my Dad's wishes but I never felt it was the wrong choice or even thought about the choice not taken. My next decision was what you can say life changing or life defining one. I had option of joining a professional course in a fairly reputed college or try another year and give myself the opportunity of joining a college of National reputation. Though I was interested in giving another try , I was talked into taking up the professional course . This is the choice which I regret the most in my life. I always felt it was the wrong choice and still even after almost 10 years I feel the same. It may even be the case of unknown pastures being greener. But this is how I feel deep down in heart.
I would like to associate or look myself as " Jack of all trades and Master of none " . But unfortunately had to do my Masters that too in Technology , when my dream was always Business Administration . The factor that the institute being of National repute may also have played a part in my choice. But eventually that particular choice of pursuing Masters to joining a job made me spend five years of life thousands of miles away from home. It hardened me in many ways and I can say have more exposure to ways of life. Initial two years were quite hard from personal and professional front. Needed a lot of emotional support because of things happening around and with me. Though there were lots of friends who were quite supportive , would have felt better sleeping with my head on mom's lap. After joining job , things got tougher on family front. Dad was diagnosed with a serious ailment and the medication was quite taxing both mentally and physically. It is in tough times you get to know your real friends or relatives. All those who were with us when things were better deserted us. Those who were along with us in my home practically their whole life didn't bother to care. They may have stepped back fearing we may ask financial help for treatment or they may have to stay helping my Mom. But the only thing wanted was emotional support. Though I was able to do it on phone I would have felt a lot better if I was nearby. If things were not already tough enough , got tougher with my dad's demise. My brother who is still studying had to do things beyond his age. In this struggle , which my mind / heart has been through for the past few years , I felt my choice was a mistake and I would have been happier or you can say peaceful if I had taken up a job after my bachelors.
Making wrong or what you say not so good choice was sadly not just limited to my professional or student life. I had to live with this even at a personal level. Not once ... not twice .. but thrice in life I made the same kind of mistake. Despite my choices , few of which may have not been good or which I feel could have been better , I am in a position of strength. All these experiences have made me tougher and prepared me for further challenges ahead in life which I think will be even more trickier and challenging.
" I am careful not to confuse excellence with perfection. Excellence , I can reach for , perfection is God's business " .
When you make a mistake, don't look back at it long. Take the reason of the thing into your mind and then look forward. Mistakes are lessons of wisdom. The past cannot be changed. The future is yet in your power..:-)
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